Thursday, November 24, 2011

Review: The Heart of Tantric Sex

Kama Sutra Illustration
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I've been curious about Tantric sex since way back in the 80s when I heard Sting say that he and his wife practised it. It's been on my list of things to do along with reading the Kama Sutra from cover to cover. I finally picked up a book on the subject. Unfortunately it was the wrong book.

The Heart of Tantric Sex is one woman's idea of Tantra. The book has a bibliography but three of the 13 books are by a friend of the author and the other ten are by the author's guru. I think if I had looked at the bibliography first I would not have started reading this book. In truth I gave up after chapter four. I was just too disgusted to continue. Here's a sample of why:
Through being able to truly love and satisfy a woman in sex, which represents a man's deepest longing, he begins to feel himself more grounded, mature, responsible, loving, energetic. A genuine male authority and clarity arises. A woman in receiving and returning this love, begins to experience herself as innocent and sweet, the source of love and creation, and a delicate perfumed femininity arises.
 Men get authority and women get perfume? Give me a break.

The other thing that bothered me was the author's insistence that truly spiritual sex can only be achieved between one woman and one man. All you polymory and homosexual people need not apply.

I'm sure there are better books on Tantra out there. I'm just going to have to look for them.

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Thursday, November 17, 2011

Review: Slow Sex

Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm by Nicole Daedone is a very interesting book. It explains the practice of Orgasmic Meditation or “OMing”. The majority of the book explains the OM “boot camp” (is anyone else tired of that phrase?) where in 15 minutes a day a woman can learn to be orgasmic. All the time if Daedone is to be believed.

OMing is for women who do not know their bodies well enough to know what gets them off. It's also for women who want more. More powerful orgasms. More of a connection to their partner. More control over their own bodies. It promises much the same results as Tantra without the spiritual woo-woo. I have to give it points for that alone.

OM is also for men who want to help their female partners open up. Or those who want to learn how to please her. I think every man wants a partner who knows what she wants and is comfortable asking for it. OM knows that our partners are not mind readers so communication between the participants is a necessity. 

I haven't tried OM. I have some sort of mental block about any kind of meditation. I have a sneaking suspicion that having a partner using only downward strokes on my clit for 15 minutes would drive me insane – and not in a good way. But maybe that's the point. Learning to relax, accept and explore. I'm not sure I have the mindset to make it all the way through OM boot camp but I'm all for anything that helps women get to know their bodies and their desires in a safe environment.

Daedone started a series of videos where she talks to other women about sex a la “The View” but she seems to have abandoned the idea after only a couple of episodes. Too bad. I would have enjoyed seeing where it would all go.

Thursday, November 10, 2011

Carpal Tunnel?

I saw this over on Facebook and it made me laugh so I thought I'd share. You're welcome.

Thursday, November 3, 2011

Review: The Cookie Sutra

The Cookie Sutra: An Ancient Treatise: that Love Shall Never Grow Stale. Nor Crumble. is one of those books you come across when you're looking for something else. I would never have thought to look for an explanation of the Kama Sutra using gingerbread men (and women).

This little gem is written with tongue firmly planted in cheek. Some of it made me laugh out loud. One example is Bending the Bow:

Bending the Bow
This position has also been referred to as "The Rainbow's Arch," in which man lies at a right angle to his partner while she holds onto his legs. It is important to engage in this position slowly and carefully, however. Otherwise the bow might not be the only thing that gets bent.
This book is a quick read. 15 minutes to put a smile on your face for the rest of the day. There's even recipe for gingerbread for adventurous bakers. You might want to invest in a set of bonking biscuit cutters.